Can you reach orgasm from nipple play only?

“Nipplegasms” are real. Nipples are full of nerves, and MRI tests show that fondling them “lights up” the same part of the brain that’s linked to your genitals. This means that for some women, getting to second base is as much fun as going to home plate.

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The Sexual-Response Cycle: What Happens to Our Bodies During Sex

While most of us are sure that we like to have sex, most of us also haven't spent much time thinking about what happens physiologically while we are engaged in the act. Masters and Johnson (two groundbreaking sextherapists) coined the term "sexual-response cycle" to mean the sequence of events that happens to the body when a person becomes sexually aroused and participates in sexually stimulating activities (intercourse, masturbation, foreplay, etc.).

The sexual-response cycle is divided into four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. There is no distinct beginning or end to each phase -- they're actually all part of a continuous process of sexual response.

Keep in mind that this is a very general outline of what happens to each of us as we become sexually aroused. There is much variation among individuals, as well as between different sexual events.

Simultaneous Orgasms

Both men and women go through all four phases, except the timing is different. Men typically reach orgasm first during intercourse, while women may take up to 15 minutes to get to the same place. This makes the likelihood of simultaneous orgasm during intercourse a rare event.

Phase One: Excitement

This phase usually begins within 10 to 30 seconds after erotic stimulation, and can last anywhere from a few minutes to many hours.

Men: The penis becomes slightly erect. A man's nipples may also become erect.

Women: Vaginal lubrication begins. The vagina expands and lengthens. The outer lips, inner lips, clitoris and sometimes breasts begin to swell.

Both: Heart rate, blood pressure and breathing are all accelerated.

Phase Two: Plateau

The changes that started in the excitement phase continue to progress.

Men: The testes are drawn up into the scrotum. The penis becomes fully erect.

Women: The vaginal lips become puffier. The tissues of the walls of the outer third of the vagina swell with blood, and the opening to the vagina narrows. The clitoris disappears into its hood. The inner labia (lips) change color (although it's a bit hard to notice). For women who've never had children, the lips turn from pink to bright red. In women who've had children, the color turns from bright red to deep purple.

Both: Breathing and pulse rates quicken. A "sex flush" may appear on the stomach, chest, shoulders, neck or face. Muscles tense in the thighs, hips, hands and buttocks, and spasms may begin.

Phase Three: Orgasm

This is the climax of the cycle. It is also the shortest of the four phases, usually only lasting a few seconds.

Men: First, seminal fluid collects in the urethral bulb. This is when a man may have the sensation that orgasm is certain, or "ejaculatory inevitability." Next, semen is ejaculated from the penis. Contractions occur in the penis during the orgasmic phase.

Women: The first third of the vaginal walls contract rhythmically every eight-tenths of a second. (The number and intensity of the contractionsvary depending on the individual orgasm.) The muscles of the uterus also contract barely noticeably.

Both: Breathing, pulse rate and blood pressure continue to rise. Muscle tension and blood-vessel engorgement reach a peak. Sometimes orgasm comes with a grasping-type muscular reflex of the hands and feet.

Phase Four: Resolution

This phase is a return to the normal resting state. It can last from a few minutes to a half-hour or longer. This stage is generally longer for women than men.

Men: The penis returns to its normal flaccid state. There is usually a refractory period, where it's impossible to orgasm again until a certain amount of time has passed. The amount of time varies among men by age, physical fitness and other factors.

Women: The uterus and clitoris return to their normal positions. Some women may be able to respond to additional stimulation with additional orgasms.

Both: Swelling recedes, any sex flush disappears, and there is a general relaxation of muscle tension.

Understanding what's happening to you and your partner's bodies during sex can only aid in the full enjoyment of the experience. Combine this with some good communication skills, and you've found the key to unlock sexual pleasure and your heart's desires.

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Vaginismus

When a woman has vaginismus, her vagina's muscles squeeze or spasm when something is entering it, like a tampon or a penis. It can be mildly uncomfortable, or it can be painful.
There are exercises a woman can do that can help, sometimes within weeks.

Symptoms

Painful sex is often a woman's first sign that she has vaginismus. The pain happens only with penetration. It usually goes away after withdrawal, but not always.
Women have described the pain as a tearing sensation or a feeling like the man is "hitting a wall."
Many women who have vaginismus also feel discomfort when inserting a tampon or during a doctor's internal pelvic exam.

Causes

Doctors don't know exactly why vaginismus happens. It's usually linked to anxietyand fear of having sex. But it's unclear which came first, the vaginismus or the anxiety.
Some women have vaginismus in all situations and with any object. Others have it only in certain circumstances, like with one partner but not others, or only with sexual intercourse but not with tampons or during medical exams.
Other medical problems like infections can also cause painful intercourse. So it's important to see a doctor to determine the underlying cause of painduring sex.

Treatment

Women with vaginismus can do exercises, in the privacy of their own home, to learn to control and relax the muscles around the vagina.
The approach is called progressive desensitization, and the idea is to get comfortable with insertion.
First, do Kegel exercises by squeezing the same muscles you use to stop the flow of urine when urinating:

• Squeeze the muscles.
• Hold for 2 to 10 seconds.
• Relax the muscles.

Do about 20 Kegels at a time. You can do them as many times a day as you want to.
After a few days, insert one finger, up to about the first knuckle joint, inside the vagina while doing the exercises. It's a good idea to clip your fingernails first and use a lubricating jelly. Or do the exercises in a bathtub, where water is a natural lubricant.
Start with one finger and work your way up to three. You'll feel the vagina's muscles contracting around your finger, and you can always take your finger out if you're not comfortable.
For women whose vaginismus is related to fear or anxiety, therapy helps.

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Female Masturbation And Hymens

Q: So I've touched myself several times before but have never inserted any fingers because I'm afraid to break my hymen. Is it possible to insert fingers without breaking it? Or not? Please help!

Ans: Your Hymen is a very thin layer of skin that sort of covers the opening to your cervix (the opening to your uterus) and this can usually only be broken if you were to have intercourse. But still being virgin inserting fingers shouldn't break your hymen however if you were to use an object etc.. this could then be possible, A lot of girls find that loosing their virginity can be painful and may even experience bleeding as a result to the broken hymen. So in saying that you may even find that using fingers and other objects may be to painful as u are still a virgin. Also a lot of women find that they cannot reach climax (orgasm) by inserting objects or fingering.  A lot of women reach climax just by rubbing etc...

Its all a new experience and i cant tell you how your body will respond but if you wish to use your fingers, make sure your hands are washed well and clean, make sure you don't have sharp nails as you could scratch the insides of your vagina and this could be painful. but in the end you shouldn't worry about breaking your hymen with your fingers as this is very unlikely.

A Girls Experience tell How masturbation help to reach orgasm

“I was having sex way before the first time I masturbated, which probably didn’t help my sex life very much. I lost my virginity at 17, and I didn’t actually masturbate until I was 22. I also didn’t have an orgasm until I was 23, so I definitely think the two were related. I couldn’t get off until I knew exactly what I wanted and needed. Maybe these men were just terrible in bed, but masturbation definitely enables you to learn more about yourself sexually.” —Steph, 25

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The 5 Best Sex Positions For Beginners

The 5 Best Sex Positions For Beginners (Or Anyone Who Can Appreciate Getting Back To Basics)

We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Now, onto this week’s topic: The best sex positions for beginners.

Q: My boyfriend and I recently lost our virginities to each other. We’re still figuring out how it all works, but it’s gradually getting less awkward and more fun! We’ve only been doing missionary, but I’d like to try some new positions. I have some ideas of what we can try, but I’m not sure exactly how to get into certain positions and how to move in a way that will be fun for me. Any tips for a beginner that will be fun for both of us?

A: Absolutely! Starting to explore the wonderful world of sex positions is a lot of fun, especially when you’ve got a good partner by your side. Here are my recommendations for the five best sex positions for beginners.


1. Missionary, With Your Legs Pulled In





How to do it: When you’re in Missionary, lift your feet off the bed and pull your knees into your chest. You can do this while he’s inside of you or before he penetrates you. As he pushes in and out of you, let your hips rock back and forth. For him, the movement is pretty similar to what he’s doing during Missionary.

Variations to try: This position is a great example of the power of small changes. Even moving your legs closer to or further from your chest by a few inches will create a different angle of penetration. You can also pull your legs further apart or squeeze them closer together. Or keep one foot flat on the bed and the other leg lifted into the air. If you’re limber, you can also try resting both of your ankles on his shoulders.

2. Missionary, With A Pillow Under Your Hips

How to do it: Before you start having sex, place a pillow under your hips, then have him enter you like he normally does during Missionary. This is a super easy variation that can create mind-blowing results for some women. It helps his body push against your clitoris, which may help you reach orgasm. You can have him focus more on grinding against you instead of thrusting in and out.

Variations to try: You can invest in sex furniture like the Liberator, which is specially designed for this position. Its sloped surface helps you experiment with raising your body further up off the bed.

3. Dangling Over The Edge Of The Bed





How to do it: Get over to the edge of the bed and let your legs hang off. He places his body between your legs and enters you. You’re pretty much along for the ride with this one, and he gets to thrust away to his heart’s content! This is an easy position for guys because it doesn’t require him to hold up his body weight with his arms.


Variations to try: If your bed isn’t the correct height for your bodies to line up, you can try putting a pillow under your hips. Or you can have him kneel on the floor between your legs. Your man can hold each of your thighs in his arms for more leverage and intensity. You can also move your legs closer or further apart from each other. Or you can rest your ankles on his shoulders for extremely deep and powerful penetration.

4. Girl On Top





How to do it: Have him lie on his back. Crawl on top of him, resting one leg on either side of his body. Take his penis in your hand and slowly lower yourself down onto it. Girl on top can be an intense position to begin with if you’re not very wet, so you may want to start with another position first, or use some additional lubricant.

Variations to try: Try playing around with a number of different ways of moving your hips. You can grind in a slow circle. You can push your hips towards and away from his chest. You can move your hips up and down on his penis. You can also try changing the angle of your body by leaning forward or back while touching your clitoris. If you’re not sure how to move, ask him to hold on to your hips and show you what he likes.

5. In A Chair






How to do it: Have him sit in a chair. You want to find one that’s short and sturdy, and doesn’t have wheels. It’s also preferable to use something that doesn’t have armrests, since those can get in the way. Slowly lower yourself onto him like you did with girl on top(again, you may want to start with a different position first or use lube). Both of your feet will be on the ground, which will give you lots of leverage. You can also hold on to the back of the chair or to his shoulders for additional support. You can easily move up and down, or you can grind your hips in a seductive circle or figure-eight pattern.

Variations to try: You do this position on a sofa or on the bed against a headboard; he’s still sitting up, but you’re on your knees. Or you can try kneeling on the chair, if there’s enough space. You can try turning around and lowering yourself onto him backwards, which will create an entirely new angle of penetration.