Female Masturbation And Hymens

Q: So I've touched myself several times before but have never inserted any fingers because I'm afraid to break my hymen. Is it possible to insert fingers without breaking it? Or not? Please help!

Ans: Your Hymen is a very thin layer of skin that sort of covers the opening to your cervix (the opening to your uterus) and this can usually only be broken if you were to have intercourse. But still being virgin inserting fingers shouldn't break your hymen however if you were to use an object etc.. this could then be possible, A lot of girls find that loosing their virginity can be painful and may even experience bleeding as a result to the broken hymen. So in saying that you may even find that using fingers and other objects may be to painful as u are still a virgin. Also a lot of women find that they cannot reach climax (orgasm) by inserting objects or fingering.  A lot of women reach climax just by rubbing etc...

Its all a new experience and i cant tell you how your body will respond but if you wish to use your fingers, make sure your hands are washed well and clean, make sure you don't have sharp nails as you could scratch the insides of your vagina and this could be painful. but in the end you shouldn't worry about breaking your hymen with your fingers as this is very unlikely.

A Girls Experience tell How masturbation help to reach orgasm

“I was having sex way before the first time I masturbated, which probably didn’t help my sex life very much. I lost my virginity at 17, and I didn’t actually masturbate until I was 22. I also didn’t have an orgasm until I was 23, so I definitely think the two were related. I couldn’t get off until I knew exactly what I wanted and needed. Maybe these men were just terrible in bed, but masturbation definitely enables you to learn more about yourself sexually.” —Steph, 25

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The 5 Best Sex Positions For Beginners

The 5 Best Sex Positions For Beginners (Or Anyone Who Can Appreciate Getting Back To Basics)

We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Now, onto this week’s topic: The best sex positions for beginners.

Q: My boyfriend and I recently lost our virginities to each other. We’re still figuring out how it all works, but it’s gradually getting less awkward and more fun! We’ve only been doing missionary, but I’d like to try some new positions. I have some ideas of what we can try, but I’m not sure exactly how to get into certain positions and how to move in a way that will be fun for me. Any tips for a beginner that will be fun for both of us?

A: Absolutely! Starting to explore the wonderful world of sex positions is a lot of fun, especially when you’ve got a good partner by your side. Here are my recommendations for the five best sex positions for beginners.


1. Missionary, With Your Legs Pulled In





How to do it: When you’re in Missionary, lift your feet off the bed and pull your knees into your chest. You can do this while he’s inside of you or before he penetrates you. As he pushes in and out of you, let your hips rock back and forth. For him, the movement is pretty similar to what he’s doing during Missionary.

Variations to try: This position is a great example of the power of small changes. Even moving your legs closer to or further from your chest by a few inches will create a different angle of penetration. You can also pull your legs further apart or squeeze them closer together. Or keep one foot flat on the bed and the other leg lifted into the air. If you’re limber, you can also try resting both of your ankles on his shoulders.

2. Missionary, With A Pillow Under Your Hips

How to do it: Before you start having sex, place a pillow under your hips, then have him enter you like he normally does during Missionary. This is a super easy variation that can create mind-blowing results for some women. It helps his body push against your clitoris, which may help you reach orgasm. You can have him focus more on grinding against you instead of thrusting in and out.

Variations to try: You can invest in sex furniture like the Liberator, which is specially designed for this position. Its sloped surface helps you experiment with raising your body further up off the bed.

3. Dangling Over The Edge Of The Bed





How to do it: Get over to the edge of the bed and let your legs hang off. He places his body between your legs and enters you. You’re pretty much along for the ride with this one, and he gets to thrust away to his heart’s content! This is an easy position for guys because it doesn’t require him to hold up his body weight with his arms.


Variations to try: If your bed isn’t the correct height for your bodies to line up, you can try putting a pillow under your hips. Or you can have him kneel on the floor between your legs. Your man can hold each of your thighs in his arms for more leverage and intensity. You can also move your legs closer or further apart from each other. Or you can rest your ankles on his shoulders for extremely deep and powerful penetration.

4. Girl On Top





How to do it: Have him lie on his back. Crawl on top of him, resting one leg on either side of his body. Take his penis in your hand and slowly lower yourself down onto it. Girl on top can be an intense position to begin with if you’re not very wet, so you may want to start with another position first, or use some additional lubricant.

Variations to try: Try playing around with a number of different ways of moving your hips. You can grind in a slow circle. You can push your hips towards and away from his chest. You can move your hips up and down on his penis. You can also try changing the angle of your body by leaning forward or back while touching your clitoris. If you’re not sure how to move, ask him to hold on to your hips and show you what he likes.

5. In A Chair






How to do it: Have him sit in a chair. You want to find one that’s short and sturdy, and doesn’t have wheels. It’s also preferable to use something that doesn’t have armrests, since those can get in the way. Slowly lower yourself onto him like you did with girl on top(again, you may want to start with a different position first or use lube). Both of your feet will be on the ground, which will give you lots of leverage. You can also hold on to the back of the chair or to his shoulders for additional support. You can easily move up and down, or you can grind your hips in a seductive circle or figure-eight pattern.

Variations to try: You do this position on a sofa or on the bed against a headboard; he’s still sitting up, but you’re on your knees. Or you can try kneeling on the chair, if there’s enough space. You can try turning around and lowering yourself onto him backwards, which will create an entirely new angle of penetration.

Erectile dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is the inability to get and keep an erection firm enough for sex.

Having erection trouble from time to time isn't necessarily a cause for concern. If erectile dysfunction is an ongoing issue, however, it can cause stress, affect your self-confidence and contribute to relationship problems. Problems getting or keeping an erection can also be a sign of an underlying health condition that needs treatment and a risk factor for heart disease.

If you're concerned about erectile dysfunction, talk to your doctor — even if you're embarrassed. Sometimes, treating an underlying condition is enough to reverse erectile dysfunction. In other cases, medications or other direct treatments might be needed.

Symptoms

Erectile dysfunction symptoms might include persistent:

• Trouble getting an erection
• Trouble keeping an erection
• Reduced sexual desire

When to see a doctor

A family doctor is a good place to start when you have erectile problems. See your doctor if:

• You have concerns about your erections or you're experiencing other sexual problems such as premature or delayed ejaculation
• You have diabetes, heart disease or another known health condition that might be linked to erectile dysfunction
• You have other symptoms along with erectile dysfunction

Causes

Male sexual arousal is a complex process that involves the brain, hormones, emotions, nerves, muscles and blood vessels. Erectile dysfunction can result from a problem with any of these. Likewise, stress and mental health concerns can cause or worsen erectile dysfunction.

Sometimes a combination of physical and psychological issues causes erectile dysfunction. For instance, a minor physical condition that slows your sexual response might cause anxiety about maintaining an erection. The resulting anxiety can lead to or worsen erectile dysfunction.

Physical causes of erectile dysfunction

In many cases, erectile dysfunction is caused by something physical. Common causes include:

• Heart disease
• Clogged blood vessels (atherosclerosis)
• High cholesterol
• High blood pressure
• Diabetes
• Obesity
• Metabolic syndrome — a condition involving increased blood pressure, high insulin levels, body fat around the waist and high cholesterol
• Parkinson's disease
• Multiple sclerosis
• Certain prescription medications
• Tobacco use
• Peyronie's disease — development of scar tissue inside the penis
• Alcoholism and other forms of substance abuse
• Sleep disorders
• Treatments for prostate cancer or enlarged prostate
• Surgeries or injuries that affect the pelvic area or spinal cord

Psychological causes of erectile dysfunction

The brain plays a key role in triggering the series of physical events that cause an erection, starting with feelings of sexual excitement. A number of things can interfere with sexual feelings and cause or worsen erectile dysfunction. These include:

• Depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions
• Stress
• Relationship problems due to stress, poor communication or other concerns

Risk factors

As you get older, erections might take longer to develop and might not be as firm. You might need more direct touch to your penis to get and keep an erection.

Various risk factors can contribute to erectile dysfunction, including:

• Medical conditions, particularly diabetes or heart conditions
• Tobacco use, which restricts blood flow to veins and arteries, can — over time — cause chronic health conditions that lead to erectile dysfunction
• Being overweight, especially if you're obese
• Certain medical treatments, such as prostate surgery or radiation treatment for cancer
• Injuries, particularly if they damage the nerves or arteries that control erections
• Medications, including antidepressants, antihistamines and medications to treat high blood pressure, pain or prostate conditions
• Psychological conditions, such as stress, anxiety or depression
• Drug and alcohol use, especially if you're a long-term drug user or heavy drinker

Complications

Complications resulting from erectile dysfunction can include:

• An unsatisfactory sex life
• Stress or anxiety
• Embarrassment or low self-esteem
• Relationship problems
• The inability to get your partner pregnant

For many men, a physical exam and answering questions (medical history) are all that's needed for a doctor to diagnose erectile dysfunction and recommend a treatment. If you have chronic health conditions or your doctor suspects that an underlying condition might be involved, you might need further tests or a consultation with a specialist.

Tests for underlying conditions might include:

• Physical exam. This might include careful examination of your penis and testicles and checking your nerves for sensation.
• Blood tests. A sample of your blood might be sent to a lab to check for signs of heart disease, diabetes, low testosterone levels and other health conditions.
• Urine tests (urinalysis). Like blood tests, urine tests are used to look for signs of diabetes and other underlying health conditions.
• Ultrasound. This test is usually performed by a specialist in an office. It involves using a wandlike device (transducer) held over the blood vessels that supply the penis. It creates a video image to let your doctor see if you have blood flow problems.
  This test is sometimes done in combination with an injection of medications into the penis to stimulate blood flow and produce an erection.
• Psychological exam. Your doctor might ask questions to screen for depression and other possible psychological causes of erectile dysfunction.

The first thing your doctor will do is to make sure you're getting the right treatment for any health conditions that could be causing or worsening your erectile dysfunction.

Depending on the cause and severity of your erectile dysfunction and any underlying health conditions, you might have various treatment options. Your doctor can explain the risks and benefits of each treatment and will consider your preferences. Your partner's preferences also might play a role in your treatment choices.

Oral medications

Oral medications are a successful erectile dysfunction treatment for many men. They include:

• Sildenafil (Viagra)
• Tadalafil (Adcirca, Cialis)
• Vardenafil (Levitra, Staxyn)
• Avanafil (Stendra)

All four medications enhance the effects of nitric oxide — a natural chemical your body produces that relaxes muscles in the penis. This increases blood flow and allows you to get an erection in response to sexual stimulation.

Taking one of these tablets will not automatically produce an erection. Sexual stimulation is needed first to cause the release of nitric oxide from your penile nerves. These medications amplify that signal, allowing some men to function normally. Oral erectile dysfunction medications are not aphrodisiacs, will not cause excitement and are not needed in men who get normal erections.

The medications vary in dosage, how long they work and side effects. Possible side effects include flushing, nasal congestion, headache, visual changes, backache and stomach upset.

Your doctor will consider your particular situation to determine which medication might work best. These medications might not treat your erectile dysfunction immediately. You might need to work with your doctor to find the right medication and dosage for you.

Before taking any medication for erectile dysfunction, including over-the-counter supplements and herbal remedies, get your doctor's OK. Medications for erectile dysfunction do not work in all men and might be less effective in certain conditions, such as after prostate surgery or if you have diabetes. Some medications might also be dangerous if you:

• Take nitrate drugs — commonly prescribed for chest pain (angina) — such as nitroglycerin (Minitran, Nitro-Dur, Nitrostat, others), isosorbide mononitrate (Monoket) and isosorbide dinitrate (Dilatrate-SR, Isordil)
• Have heart disease or heart failure
• Have very low blood pressure (hypotension)

Other medications

Other medications for erectile dysfunction include:

• Alprostadil self-injection. With this method, you use a fine needle to inject alprostadil (Caverject Impulse, Edex) into the base or side of your penis. In some cases, medications generally used for other conditions are used for penile injections on their own or in combination. Examples include papaverine, alprostadil and phentolamine. Often these combination medications are known as bimix (if two medications are included) or trimix (if three are included).
  Each injection is dosed to create an erection lasting no longer than an hour. Because the needle used is very fine, pain from the injection site is usually minor.
  Side effects can include mild bleeding from the injection, prolonged erection (priapism) and, rarely, formation of fibrous tissue at the injection site.
• Alprostadil urethral suppository. Alprostadil intraurethral (Muse) therapy involves placing a tiny alprostadil suppository inside your penis in the penile urethra. You use a special applicator to insert the suppository into your penile urethra.
  The erection usually starts within 10 minutes and, when effective, lasts between 30 and 60 minutes. Side effects can include pain, minor bleeding in the urethra and formation of fibrous tissue inside your penis.
• Testosterone replacement. Some men have erectile dysfunction that might be complicated by low levels of the hormone testosterone. In this case, testosterone replacement therapy might be recommended as the first step or given in combination with other therapies.

Penis pumps, surgery and implants

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If medications aren't effective or appropriate in your case, your doctor might recommend a different treatment. Other treatments include:

• Penis pumps. A penis pump (vacuum erection device) is a hollow tube with a hand-powered or battery-powered pump. The tube is placed over your penis, and then the pump is used to suck out the air inside the tube. This creates a vacuum that pulls blood into your penis.
  Once you get an erection, you slip a tension ring around the base of your penis to hold in the blood and keep it firm. You then remove the vacuum device.
  The erection typically lasts long enough for a couple to have sex. You remove the tension ring after intercourse. Bruising of the penis is a possible side effect, and ejaculation will be restricted by the band. Your penis might feel cold to the touch.
  If a penis pump is a good treatment choice for you, your doctor might recommend or prescribe a specific model. That way, you can be sure it suits your needs and that it's made by a reputable manufacturer.
• Penile implants. This treatment involves surgically placing devices into both sides of the penis. These implants consist of either inflatable or malleable (bendable) rods. Inflatable devices allow you to control when and how long you have an erection. The malleable rods keep your penis firm but bendable.
  Penile implants are usually not recommended until other methods have been tried first. Implants have a high degree of satisfaction among men who have tried and failed more-conservative therapies. As with any surgery, there's a risk of complications, such as infection.

Exercise

Recent studies have found that exercise, especially moderate to vigorous aerobic activity, can improve erectile dysfunction. However, benefits might be less in some men, including those with established heart disease or other significant medical conditions.

Even less strenuous, regular exercise might reduce the risk of erectile dysfunction. Increasing your level of activity might also further reduce your risk.

Discuss an exercise plan with your doctor.

Psychological counseling

If your erectile dysfunction is caused by stress, anxiety or depression — or the condition is creating stress and relationship tension — your doctor might suggest that you, or you and your partner, visit a psychologist or counselor.

Alternative medicine

Before using any supplement, check with your doctor to make sure it's safe for you — especially if you have chronic health conditions. Some alternative products that claim to work for erectile dysfunction can be dangerous.

The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has issued warnings about several types of "herbal viagra" because they contain potentially harmful drugs not listed on the label. The dosages might also be unknown, or they might have been contaminated during formulation.

Some of these drugs can interact with prescription drugs and cause dangerously low blood pressure. These products are especially dangerous for men who take nitrates.

Know Clitoris

The clitoris is a small projection of erectile tissue in the vulva of the female reproductive system. It contains thousands of nerve endings that make it an extremely sensitive organ. Touch stimulation of the nerve endings in the clitoris produces sensations of sexual pleasure. The clitoris is structurally and functionally homologous to the penis of the male reproductive system, except that the clitoris does not contain the urethra and plays no role in urination.

It is vaguely cylindrical in shape and usually just a centimeter or two in length, although its size may vary greatly in individuals. The prepuce, or hood, of the clitoris is a small fold of skin that covers and protects the clitoris anteriorly; the labia majora and labia minora surround and protect it in all other directions.

The clitoris can be divided into three major regions: the glans, body, and crura. 

• Under the surface of the skin, two legs of erectile tissue known as the crura fan out to support the exterior structures of the clitoris and attach to the underlying tissues.
• Extending from the crura is the body, the main cylindrical region of the clitoris, which contains two columns of the erectile tissue. Blood filling the hollow chambers of the erectile tissue allows the clitoris to grow in size and harden during sexual stimulation.
• Finally, the glans forms the pointed tip of the clitoris extending outward from the body and beyond the prepuce that covers the rest of the clitoris.

Thousands of touch and pressure sensitive nerve endings are found throughout the clitoris. Nerve endings in the body and glans are sensitive to direct touch and pressure stimulation from outside of the body while the nerve endings of the crus are sensitive to stimulation from within the vagina. The stimulation of the clitoral nerve endings is responsible for the majority of sexual pleasure and sensation in the female body.

Prepared by Tim Taylor, Anatomy and Physiology Instructor