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Wednesday, 14 August 2019

THE FUNCTION OF THE CLITORIS

You’ve got to love the clitoris because its only function is to provide you with pleasure. In fact, this is the only organ in humans that exists only for pleasure. And having pleasure is important. When you have a clitoral orgasm, your body releases oxytocin, the feel-good hormone. When you don’t have enough oxytocin, you’ll feel stressed, which could lead to a host of health problems, such as obesity, headaches, depression and anxiety.
The head of the clitoris contains about 8,000 nerve fibers. This is more than anywhere else on the body and almost twice the amount as the nerve fibers on the head of the penis.

WHEN YOU’RE TURNED ON

When you’re sexually excited, the clitoris swells as it becomes engorged with blood. The vaginal lips also swell and open slightly, and the clitoral hood pulls back.
Your vagina begins to lubricate, and you can use this natural lubrication to stimulate your clitoris. You just need to rub your fingers under the clitoris to spread the lubrication up from the vagina to the clitoris.

SIZE VARIES

The size of the clitoris varies among women. Some are longer, and some are shorter. Some are thinner, and some are wider. Some are large and prominent, and some are difficult to find. And all of this is normal.
Hormonal changes also affect the size of the clitoris. A woman in her middle 30s can have a clitoris that is about four times larger than it was when she first entered puberty.

10 Sex Positions Sure to Get You Pregnant

If you're trying to get pregnant, there's one thing you should know: Those myths that certain positions (like having sex while standing) don't work are exactly that — myths. As long as you're having intercourse, you're potentially making a baby.
"Basically, a woman can get pregnant in any position at all," says Hilda Hutcherson, MD, senior associate dean at the Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons. "The sperm can swim upstream, sideways, and upside down — it doesn't matter."
But there are a couple of ways to improve your chances of getting pregnant — especially if you've been having difficulties — and that's where some good old-fashioned missionary comes in. Although any position that requires you to lie on your back will do the trick: "Make sure at the time the male ejaculates, you're in a position in which the semen pools around the cervix for a longer period of time. That's any position where you're lying on your back with your hips elevated," Hutcherson says. After ejaculation, remain with your hips elevated for 30 minutes to an hour.
Hutcherson has another tip that you're really (really, really, really) going to enjoy.
"I also tell women to experience orgasm. When you experience orgasm, there's a contraction — spasms of the pelvic floor of the uterus — and they think that helps suck the semen up into the cervix. You won't find it in a textbook, but anecdotally — not scientifically — I've found it helps women get pregnant," she says. "But then women ask, 'Well, how am I supposed to do that?' I usually tell them with a toy, with their partner's help, or manually — but it's just something else to think about."
Using these expert-approved tips, here are 10 positions — all on your back, some with elevated hips, and most making it easier to orgasm — that will have you shopping for baby clothes before you know it.
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CLASSIC MISSIONARY
When it comes to baby-making, you can't beat missionary — and no, it doesn't have to be boring. Unlike other positions, you're getting a ton of skin-to-skin contact, making things even more intimate. Just lie on your back with your guy on top, and feel free to lock eyes while he's thrusting.
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BENT KNEES
The next time you're on bottom during sex, lie on your back and bring your knees up to your chest, wrapping your legs around your guy. The easy change will allow a deeper thrust — and give the sperm a better chance of getting where they need to go.
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LEGS IN THE AIR
Lying back with your legs in a V-shape might feel weird at first — but once you get comfortable, it'll start to feel good. (Really good.) The variation on missionary basically gives him full access to you, making it easy to thrust without any barriers. If your legs get tired, feel free to bend them.
RELATED: 20 Sex Moves That Are Guaranteed to Drive Men Crazy
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THE CAT
If you haven't heard of the coital alignment technique (CAT) sex position, just wait because it's about to blow your mind. Lie on your back and have your man hop on top, this time with his body positioned further up and slightly to one side, so his chest is near your shoulders and your legs are bent at around a 45-degree angle. Being in this position maximizes clitoralstimulation while you're having sex, which is great for making a baby.
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PIRATE'S BOUNTY
Ready for a real gem? To master Pirate's Bounty — and find some treasure in the form of an epic orgasm — lie on your back with your guy kneeling in front of you. Put one leg on his shoulder and the other wrapped around his thigh so your body is positioned kind of like a ship's mast. You'll be saying "Aye aye, captain!" all night.
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THE BUTTERFLY
Ready to spread your wings — or, um, your legs? To master the Butterfly, lie on your back with your hips right at the edge of the bed. Put your ankles on his shoulders and have him hold your hips up as he enters you, slightly tilting your hips toward the ceiling and giving him better access to your G-spot.
RELATED: 16 Couples Share Their Secret Sex Codes
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EDGE OF THE BED
Sometimes using a prop during sex makes all the difference, and all you need for this move is your bed. Position your hips at the edge and have your guy stand in front of you. Then simply place your feet on his chest as he deeply thrusts.

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SCISSORS
When it comes to the rock-paper-scissors of sex positions, scissors always wins. To master this move, all you need to do is lie on your back and let your guy do the rest of the work: Have him kneel on the bed in front of you and hold your legs apart in a V-shape. Then as he's thrusting, he can open and close your legs like scissors, creating a sensation that's hard to beat.
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SHOULDER STAND
The Shoulder Stand requires a little more work, but it's totally worth it. Lie on your back with your man kneeling in front of you, then have him boost up your hips with one arm as he supports himself on the bed with the other. Put a little weight on your shoulders to help hold your hips up, and enjoy.
RELATED: 26 Sex Games That Guarantee More Fun In Your Bedroom
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LEG WRAP
This might be one of the easiest moves, but it's also one of the best in terms of sensation. When you're in missionary, straighten your legs after he's inside you and gently wrap them around his. Add a pillow for an even deeper penetration.

Friday, 26 July 2019

14 POWERFUL MASTURBATION TECHNIQUES FOR INCREDIBLE ORGASMS

1. UP & DOWN

masturbations techniques. Finger rubbing the clitorisThis first masturbation technique will get you started and is super easy. You’ll be focusing on the clit, and all you need to do is to take a finger and just start rubbing up and down on one side of it like in the illustration above. If you want more stimulation, then try rubbing your finger directly over your clit.
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It’s that simple, but of course, you can experiment with how hard you rub your finger, how fast and the length of the strokes. This is also an easy technique to use on yourself while you are giving your man a blow job (Read the in-depth, illustrated Blow Job Guide here).

2. THE LONG SLOW STROKE

Masturbation Techniques - running finger from bottom of vagina to clitorisUsing one or more fingers, very lightly and softly glide over the middle of your vagina and clitoris, from bottom to top like in the illustration above. Listen to your body to feel which areas provide the most pleasure and stimulation when touched.
Then experiment with fast strokes, slower strokes, as well as using more or less pressure. Also try switching direction, starting at your clit and rubbing downwards or rubbing up and down. You may not orgasm from this, but it’s a great masturbation technique for exploring all of your vagina to see what is most pleasurable and reacts most intensely to your touch.

3. FROM SIDE TO SIDE

Masturbation Technique - rubbing the clitoris from side to side until orgasmThis is another simple and straightforward masturbation technique focusing on your clitoris. As the name suggests, you are going to rubbing your finger from side to side over your clit.
Some women prefer indirect contact here, barely touching their clit, while others need more intense contact and pressure to enjoy themselves. As always, you’ll need to try different variations for yourself to see what you enjoy. Here are a few ideas
  • Try different speeds.
  • Change the amount of pressure you use.
  • Try using some lube.
  • Vary how many fingers you use (one, two, three or four)
  • Switch between direct and indirect contact
This masturbation technique is perfect to use during any doggy style sex position if you want to add in a little extra clitoral stimulation. You can find 11 different doggy style sex positions to try here.

4. FANTASTIC FUN WITH FOUR FINGERS

Masturbation Techniques - rubbing the clitoris with all four fingers

This may be the most used and effective masturbation technique of the 14 listed here, as you will have four fingers running over and rubbing your clit, making it easy to climax. Performing this technique is a simple case of holding your four fingers together and rubbing them over your clit and vagina in a circular motion as demonstrated above.
You can rub in small circles to mostly focus on your clit, or your can use larger circles to stimulate your labia, U spot and the rest of your vagina too.
This instructional video may be a bit shocking for you, but it will teach you how to make any man completely & utterly obsessed with you & only you by using 3 simple techniques. Check it out here to learn how.
This masturbation technique is also great if you like giving yourself extra stimulation during sex when you can easily access your clit. Of course, your man can also take over during sex and use this technique on you. Doggy Style (check it out here) is the perfect position for this as both of you will have easy, unhindered access to your clitoris.

5. U SPOT

So many women don’t seem to know about the U Spot. I’ve indicated it with a slightly darker shade of pink in the diagram below (please note that it does not have any distinct coloring in real life). As you can see, it’s the area of skin just above your urethral opening and to the sides of it.
U Spot masturbation technique for powerful orgasmsTo stimulate it you just need to gently stroke it with the tip of your finger like in the illustration below. While rubbing only your U Spot is super pleasurable, an even better masturbation technique is to rub softly from your U Spot right up to your clitoris and back down again (demonstrated in the diagram below).

Masturbation Technique - Finger rubbing U Spot
If you’re not already wet when rubbing your U Spot, then make sure to use some lube. And don’t be afraid to venture a bit off course and start massaging your labia or clit to vary the sensation.
For some women, the U Spot can extend higher than in this illustration, to right below the clitoris.

6. LOVE THAT SHOWER HEAD

Masturbation Technique - water running over vaginaIf you haven’t yet used a shower head or faucet to get off, you are missing out! Women have been using this method to masturbate for decades [2]. While it’s a more hands off masturbation technique, it feels incredible and entirely different to your finger. All you need is a faucet that you can maneuver your vagina under so that the water can freely flow over it or a shower head that you can direct towards your vagina.
I don’t know the exact science behind it, but everyone that tries it reports that the running water feels wonderful and can help you get off very, very quickly. So experiment with the settings on your shower head to find out what feels best. Quick Hint: You may find that the ‘pulse’ setting is best. One of the benefits of masturbating in the shower is that if you are trying to make yourself squirt, everything gets quickly washed away by the water. And if you want to learn how to make yourself squirt, then check out the squirting guide here.

7. UNDER THE HOOD

masturbation techniques - rubbing the clitoral hoodSome women have a super-sensitive clitoris. Often it’s so sensitive, that it can feel almost unpleasant to touch. If you are one of these women, then you may find that using many of my masturbation techniques to be too uncomfortable…and possibly even painful.
If that’s the case, then instead of using my masturbation techniques to apply pressure directly to your clit, you need to use your clitoral hood as a sort of buffer or shield instead. That’s the flap of skin just above your clit that covers it. I’ve indicated it in the illustration above with a slightly darker shade of pink (in real life your clitoral hood has no distinct color).
So if you have an overly sensitive clit, then try rubbing your clitoral hood instead of your clit. You’ll notice that it’s a lot more pleasurable and not so sensitive. Alternatively, you may want to use some of these fingering techniques instead.

8. HOOD LIFE

masturbating techniques - exposing the clitorisYou may have the opposite problem to the one I mentioned above in Under The Hood. You may happen to be someone who suffers from a lack of sensitivity and so need all the rubbing, grinding, touching & stimulation you can get on your clitoris. No problem, there is a pretty simple solution. To allow yourself to stimulate your clit intensely, you’re going to need to expose it more. It’s easy, and the demonstration above should be all you need to expose it more.
As you can see, by placing your fingers above your clit and on either side of it, then slowly pulling the skin backwards, you will pull back the clitoral hood and expose it much more. While pulling back your clitoral hood is not exactly a masturbation technique; it will allow you to use your other hand or a vibrator to stimulate it more directly. This can also be helpful in certain positions during sex if you want more intense clitoral stimulation. You can learn more clitoral stimulation techniques here.

9. ORGASMIC MEDITATION

orgasmic meditation masturbation technique upper left quadrantWhen I first heard the words, “Orgasmic Meditation” I sort of imagined people practicing tantra. In a way, orgasmic meditation is sort of like tantric sex as there is a process you are supposed to follow and the end goal is not necessarily having an orgasm. So what does orgasmic meditation have to do with stimulating your clitoris?
Everything
The basic technique involves both you and your man. You need to start by getting comfortable while lying down on your back with your legs spread right open. Then your man needs to get into a comfortable position sitting down to your right side with his left leg bent and over your stomach and his right leg under your right leg. He then needs to start stroking the upper left quadrant of your clit with just one lubricated finger very slowly and lightly. I’ve indicated this upper left quadrant area between the dotted lines in the illustration above.His touch should be as light as possible.
The masturbation technique he needs to use – He’s going to move his finger a few millimeters back and forth making sure to apply only the slightest amount of pressure to your clit. Some women report that it just feels too frustrating, and they can’t keep doing it for long, that it seems like they are teasing themselves, while others say that the longer they do it, the better it feels.
My advice is to try it at least once and do your absolute best to hold out for as long as you can, making sure to use the very least amount of pressure possible. At a minimum, it can serve as great foreplay for your masturbation session.
It’s a little hard to describe with just words, so you may want to watch this detailed instructional video that will give you much more in-depth instructions on how to practice orgasmic meditation with your partner.

Tuesday, 4 June 2019

Can you reach orgasm from nipple play only?


“Nipplegasms” are real. Nipples are full of nerves, and MRI tests show that fondling them “lights up” the same part of the brain that’s linked to your genitals. This means that for some women, getting to second base is as much fun as going to home plate.


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The Sexual-Response Cycle: What Happens to Our Bodies During Sex



While most of us are sure that we like to have sex, most of us also haven't spent much time thinking about what happens physiologically while we are engaged in the act. Masters and Johnson (two groundbreaking sextherapists) coined the term "sexual-response cycle" to mean the sequence of events that happens to the body when a person becomes sexually aroused and participates in sexually stimulating activities (intercourse, masturbation, foreplay, etc.).
The sexual-response cycle is divided into four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. There is no distinct beginning or end to each phase -- they're actually all part of a continuous process of sexual response.
Keep in mind that this is a very general outline of what happens to each of us as we become sexually aroused. There is much variation among individuals, as well as between different sexual events.

Simultaneous Orgasms

Both men and women go through all four phases, except the timing is different. Men typically reach orgasm first during intercourse, while women may take up to 15 minutes to get to the same place. This makes the likelihood of simultaneous orgasm during intercourse a rare event.

Phase One: Excitement

This phase usually begins within 10 to 30 seconds after erotic stimulation, and can last anywhere from a few minutes to many hours.
Men: The penis becomes slightly erect. A man's nipples may also become erect.
Women: Vaginal lubrication begins. The vagina expands and lengthens. The outer lips, inner lips, clitoris and sometimes breasts begin to swell.
Both: Heart rate, blood pressure and breathing are all accelerated.

Phase Two: Plateau

The changes that started in the excitement phase continue to progress.
Men: The testes are drawn up into the scrotum. The penis becomes fully erect.
Women: The vaginal lips become puffier. The tissues of the walls of the outer third of the vagina swell with blood, and the opening to the vagina narrows. The clitoris disappears into its hood. The inner labia (lips) change color (although it's a bit hard to notice). For women who've never had children, the lips turn from pink to bright red. In women who've had children, the color turns from bright red to deep purple.
Both: Breathing and pulse rates quicken. A "sex flush" may appear on the stomach, chest, shoulders, neck or face. Muscles tense in the thighs, hips, hands and buttocks, and spasms may begin.

Phase Three: Orgasm

This is the climax of the cycle. It is also the shortest of the four phases, usually only lasting a few seconds.
Men: First, seminal fluid collects in the urethral bulb. This is when a man may have the sensation that orgasm is certain, or "ejaculatory inevitability." Next, semen is ejaculated from the penis. Contractions occur in the penis during the orgasmic phase.
Women: The first third of the vaginal walls contract rhythmically every eight-tenths of a second. (The number and intensity of the contractionsvary depending on the individual orgasm.) The muscles of the uterus also contract barely noticeably.
Both: Breathing, pulse rate and blood pressure continue to rise. Muscle tension and blood-vessel engorgement reach a peak. Sometimes orgasm comes with a grasping-type muscular reflex of the hands and feet.

Phase Four: Resolution

This phase is a return to the normal resting state. It can last from a few minutes to a half-hour or longer. This stage is generally longer for women than men.
Men: The penis returns to its normal flaccid state. There is usually a refractory period, where it's impossible to orgasm again until a certain amount of time has passed. The amount of time varies among men by age, physical fitness and other factors.
Women: The uterus and clitoris return to their normal positions. Some women may be able to respond to additional stimulation with additional orgasms.
Both: Swelling recedes, any sex flush disappears, and there is a general relaxation of muscle tension.
Understanding what's happening to you and your partner's bodies during sex can only aid in the full enjoyment of the experience. Combine this with some good communication skills, and you've found the key to unlock sexual pleasure and your heart's desires.

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Vaginismus




When a woman has vaginismus, her vagina's muscles squeeze or spasm when something is entering it, like a tampon or a penis. It can be mildly uncomfortable, or it can be painful.
There are exercises a woman can do that can help, sometimes within weeks.

Symptoms

Painful sex is often a woman's first sign that she has vaginismus. The pain happens only with penetration. It usually goes away after withdrawal, but not always.
Women have described the pain as a tearing sensation or a feeling like the man is "hitting a wall."
Many women who have vaginismus also feel discomfort when inserting a tampon or during a doctor's internal pelvic exam.

Causes

Doctors don't know exactly why vaginismus happens. It's usually linked to anxietyand fear of having sex. But it's unclear which came first, the vaginismus or the anxiety.
Some women have vaginismus in all situations and with any object. Others have it only in certain circumstances, like with one partner but not others, or only with sexual intercourse but not with tampons or during medical exams.
Other medical problems like infections can also cause painful intercourse. So it's important to see a doctor to determine the underlying cause of painduring sex.

Treatment

Women with vaginismus can do exercises, in the privacy of their own home, to learn to control and relax the muscles around the vagina.
The approach is called progressive desensitization, and the idea is to get comfortable with insertion.
First, do Kegel exercises by squeezing the same muscles you use to stop the flow of urine when urinating:
  • Squeeze the muscles.
  • Hold for 2 to 10 seconds.
  • Relax the muscles.
Do about 20 Kegels at a time. You can do them as many times a day as you want to.
After a few days, insert one finger, up to about the first knuckle joint, inside the vagina while doing the exercises. It's a good idea to clip your fingernails first and use a lubricating jelly. Or do the exercises in a bathtub, where water is a natural lubricant.
Start with one finger and work your way up to three. You'll feel the vagina's muscles contracting around your finger, and you can always take your finger out if you're not comfortable.
For women whose vaginismus is related to fear or anxiety, therapy helps.

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Wednesday, 20 September 2017

Female Masturbation And Hymens

Q: So I've touched myself several times before but have never inserted any fingers because I'm afraid to break my hymen. Is it possible to insert fingers without breaking it? Or not? Please help!


Ans: Your Hymen is a very thin layer of skin that sort of covers the opening to your cervix (the opening to your uterus) and this can usually only be broken if you were to have intercourse. But still being virgin inserting fingers shouldn't break your hymen however if you were to use an object etc.. this could then be possible, A lot of girls find that loosing their virginity can be painful and may even experience bleeding as a result to the broken hymen. So in saying that you may even find that using fingers and other objects may be to painful as u are still a virgin. Also a lot of women find that they cannot reach climax (orgasm) by inserting objects or fingering.  A lot of women reach climax just by rubbing etc...

Its all a new experience and i cant tell you how your body will respond but if you wish to use your fingers, make sure your hands are washed well and clean, make sure you don't have sharp nails as you could scratch the insides of your vagina and this could be painful. but in the end you shouldn't worry about breaking your hymen with your fingers as this is very unlikely.